So I have wonderful insurance through State Farm, I’ve had them since I started driving, like in 1995 or something. When we got married, I stayed with State Farm, just added J to my policy, in case he needed to drive my car sometime. One of the “bonuses” State Farm does is send out Christmas address labels to use for cards—love that part! However, this year, the address labels came and said John and Mary Smith. What? When did I become the second class citizen? Don’t I pay the bill? Haven’t I been the insured person for 17 years?
For years, we teach our daughters, support our friends to be independent strong women, until they get married and still become an “and” to somebody’s name, thus taking a second seat to the husband. Why? I don’t get it….especially in this instance when I have been the insured person, not him. Shouldn’t I be listed as primary? I know this is one of my oddities, among others—I don’t like Mr and Mrs at all. Why do we as women have to identify our relationship status? Do men? No. It’s just an archaic tradition of subjugating ourselves. I use Ms. for everything. I didn’t (and don’t) address wedding invitations/cards/etc as Mr. and Mrs. James Doe to anyone. How in modern-day society can a woman be identified as a Mrs. Some guys name?
I know—women’s rights is my biggest soapbox, oh well. I’m sure if it was 100 years ago, I would have been a suffragette in jail because I was fighting for the right for women to vote.